With the onset of adolescence more problems come between parents and teenagers. These problemsare most
commonly expressed in the form of complaints.
The parents complain about how the teenager never talks to them anymore, never has anything to say, and how they feel ignorant about what is going on. If the parents want to get the adolescent to clean the messy room up, they have to make it a problem for the teenager. To do so, they may declare: "You can't go out with your friends until it is cleaned up to our satisfaction." Now the messy state of the room has achieved a problem status in the young person's eyes because it stands in the way of what he wants to do.
Sometimes parents have to give an adolescent a problem to get cooperation in return!!! 1) You can change how things are to become how you would like them to be. So the parents get an agreement that the adolescent keeps about picking up the bedroom at the end of each day.
What is the worst thing when there are problems between parents or between parent and teenager, is the negative effect they have on relationships.
Now attention is focused on what's wrong, on what is not working, on discontent, grievance, and unhappiness.
The parents complain about how the teenager never talks to them anymore, never has anything to say, and how they feel ignorant about what is going on. If the parents want to get the adolescent to clean the messy room up, they have to make it a problem for the teenager. To do so, they may declare: "You can't go out with your friends until it is cleaned up to our satisfaction." Now the messy state of the room has achieved a problem status in the young person's eyes because it stands in the way of what he wants to do.
Sometimes parents have to give an adolescent a problem to get cooperation in return!!! 1) You can change how things are to become how you would like them to be. So the parents get an agreement that the adolescent keeps about picking up the bedroom at the end of each day.
What is the worst thing when there are problems between parents or between parent and teenager, is the negative effect they have on relationships.
Now attention is focused on what's wrong, on what is not working, on discontent, grievance, and unhappiness.
